Ugom, Obi Utom, Nwanyi Bekee m, Da Nkee m, Agu Nwanyi m, The Love of my Life......

Biko, I have taken time to reflect deeply, and I need to speak to you from a place of complete honesty. I know I have hurt you. I know I have stressed you. I know I have disrespected you in ways a man who truly loves a woman should never do. For that, I am sincerely sorry.

For a long time, I convinced myself that you had anger issues and that you did not give me peace of mind. I complained about your reactions without pausing to examine my actions. Now I see clearly that most times, I was the one triggering you. I was the one creating the tension. I reacted instead of listening. I chose pride instead of patience. And when you responded emotionally, I blamed you instead of asking myself what I had done to push you there.

I also used to feel hurt about the times you disrespected me or called me names. I focused on how it made me feel, but I ignored the truth that I was often the one pushing you to that point. I created the frustration and then complained about the reaction. That was unfair to you.

The hardest truth for me to admit is that I was not faithful. I kept changing passwords, hiding things, moving in secrecy because I was chasing a false idea of happiness. I was looking for something outside, not realizing that the peace and happiness I claimed to want was already in front of me. I searched for another woman to make me happy while damaging the one who truly loved me.

Ugom, you did not deserve the insecurity. You did not deserve the confusion. You did not deserve to question your worth because of my actions. I brought fire into our relationship and expected you to bring calm. I wanted peace while behaving in ways that destroyed it.

The truth is, I cannot love another woman the way I love you. But love is not just words. It is character, consistency, faithfulness, and respect. And I failed in those areas.

If you ever decide to give me another chance, I do not want to repeat the same mistakes. I want to be accountable. I want to be transparent. I want to be faithful in my actions, my conversations, and my heart. I want to become a man who gives you peace instead of taking it away.

Before you say no, please remember how far we have come. Remember the laughter, the sweetness, the moments that felt effortless and real. I know you remember those beautiful times. I do too.

And even if you decide you can’t do this again, I will still respect you. Because you have every right to protect yourself. But if there is still a small space in your heart… if there is still a little hope… please allow me to prove it to you. Not with talk. With actions. With consistency. With the kind of love that finally matches your worth.

I love you, Ugom. And this time, I want my love to feel safe for you.

Ugom, I know you can still remember these beautiful moments we share together...